In LGBT slang, a "gold star lesbian" is a lesbian who has never had sex with a man, and a "gold star gay" is a gay man who has never had sex with a woman. The terms can be joking, sincerely held identities, or stereotypes within the LGBT community. When used sincerely, the terms have been criticised as exclusionary towards bisexuality and other experiences of gender and sexuality, and as stigmatising survivors of sexual violence.
The related term "gold star asexual" refers not to past sexual experience, but to a hypothetical asexual person whose asexuality cannot be attributed to trauma, disability or other external factors.
The term gold star lesbian can position women who have never had sex with men as "more authentic", as they are not "contaminated" by men, according to Lucy Jones in Dyke/Girl (2012).[1] It can be used as a humorous rejection of heterosexuality.[2] In Cosmopolitan, Marianne Eloise wrote that the term can be a source of pride or comfort to some lesbians, including those with traumatic experiences of masculinity, but that it has cissexist implications.[3] It can also be derogatory towards bisexual women.[1]
Shelby and Dolan, in Lesbian Women and Sexual Health (2014), reported that gold star lesbian can be used by lesbians to stigmatise other women who have past or present sexual relationships with men.[4] The social psychologist Petra Boynton, in an opinion column for The Daily Telegraph, said it is a "toxic label" that excludes bisexual women, diversity within sexuality and gender, victims of sexual violence and other life experiences. Boynton said it can also be used as "a slur against lesbians".[5] Elizabeth Pearce, in her PhD thesis documented people identifying as femme lesbians who were met dismissively by other lesbians, whether through lack of a "gold star" or disbelief that they were a "gold star lesbian".[6]
John Paul Brammer, in his memoir ¡Hola Papi! How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons (2021), described gold star gay as a "prolific" phrase in gay circles, and associated it with a "performative disgust" for women's genitalia or bodies that can "reduce women". Brammer rejected the term for treating a part of his past—his high school relationship with a girlfriend—as "disposable".[7]
In Feminist Studies, Nan Alamilla Boyd analysed lesbian history as "the history of an idea rather than a group of people", and considered the concept "gold star lesbian" (or "lifelong lesbian") to hold "a lot of ideological weight". Boyd commented that the homophile movement predates the identity "lesbian", but that the idea of a lifelong lesbian later became useful to particular communities.[8] In a PhD thesis, Caroline Lippy said that "gold star lesbian" is a "community stereotype" reflective of communication or empathy barriers between some lesbians: a "gold star lesbian" may be unable to provide empathy or advice to a lesbian with wider sexual experiences.[9]
Gold star asexualedit
The term gold star asexual, coined in 2010 by a blogger, refers to an asexual person who is able-bodied, sociable and in all other ways considered "normal". It is a hypothetical ideal of a person whose asexuality will not be dismissed, as it could not be attributed to trauma or other factors. The term is a response to prejudice that being sexual is better than being asexual. Unlike other gold star terms, it does not indicate anything about past sexual activity.[10][11][12]
Example usagesedit
Andy Cohen has identified with the term gold star gay; in his memoir Superficial (2016), he recounts a story about his attitude towards a threesome with a heterosexual couple in light of his pride for being a "gold star gay".[13] In an article by the BBC, the BBC described the lesbian pornographic actor Lily Cade as a "gold star lesbian", in connection with her refusal to have sex with transgender women.[14] In "Emergency Contact" (2017), a season 9 Will & Grace episode, the term platinum star gay is jokingly used by a character to indicate that he is not only a "gold star gay", but was born via Caesarean section.[15]
According to women quoted in Cosmopolitan, the term gold star lesbian had declined in popularity by 2021, but reflected a still-existing concept.[3]
^Mason, Derritt (2013). "The Queer Art of Imperfection". English Studies in Canada. 39 (2/3): 13–15. doi:10.1353/esc.2013.0028. S2CID 142996705. ProQuest 1506457261.
^ abEloise, Marianne (26 January 2021). "Gold star lesbian: What's the deal with the term 'gold star lesbian'?". Cosmopolitan. Retrieved 22 December 2021.
^Shelby, R Dennis; Dolan, Kathleen (2014). Lesbian Women and Sexual Health: The Social Construction of Risk and Susceptibility. Routledge. p. 34. ISBN9781317718192.
^Boynton, Petra (4 July 2017). "I had sex with a man – can I still be a lesbian?". The Daily Telegraph. ProQuest 1915690615.
^Pearce, Elizabeth (2012). The Intersection of Femme Gender and Lesbian Identity Development (PhD). Alliant International University.
^Boyd, Nan Alamilla (2013). "The History of the Idea of the Lesbian as a Kind of Person". Feminist Studies. 39 (2): 362–365. doi:10.1353/fem.2013.0042. S2CID 245658207. ProQuest 1508764643.
^Lippy, Caroline (2011). Lean on me: informal social networks and the prevention of intimate partner violence in sexual minority communities (PhD). Georgia State University.
^Cerankowski, Karli June; Milks, Megan (2014). Asexualities: Feminist and Queer Perspectives. Routledge. pp. 145, 158. ISBN9781134692460.
^Chen, Angela (2020). Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex. Beacon Press. p. 97. ISBN9780807013793.
^Agard, Chancellor (15 November 2016). "Andy Cohen talks almost losing gold star gay status in threesome". Entertainment Weekly. Retrieved 22 December 2021.
^Andersson, Jasmine (5 November 2021). "How a BBC article on trans women and lesbians became the eye of the storm in a transphobia row". i. Retrieved 22 December 2021.
^Kirkland, Justin (12 October 2017). "Will & Grace recap: 'Emergency Contact'". Entertainment Weekly. Retrieved 22 December 2021.
Further readingedit
Callis, April Scarlette (2011). Beyond the binary: Identity, subjectivity, and the sexual borderlands (PhD). Purdue University.
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In LGBT slang a gold star lesbian is a lesbian who has never had sex with a man and a gold star gay is a gay man who has never had sex with a woman The terms can be joking sincerely held identities or stereotypes within the LGBT community When used sincerely the terms have been criticised as exclusionary towards bisexuality and other experiences of gender and sexuality and as stigmatising survivors of sexual violence The related term gold star asexual refers not to past sexual experience but to a hypothetical asexual person whose asexuality cannot be attributed to trauma disability or other external factors Contents 1 Gold star gay and lesbian 2 Gold star asexual 3 Example usages 4 References 5 Further reading 6 See alsoGold star gay and lesbian editThe term gold star lesbian can position women who have never had sex with men as more authentic as they are not contaminated by men according to Lucy Jones in Dyke Girl 2012 1 It can be used as a humorous rejection of heterosexuality 2 In Cosmopolitan Marianne Eloise wrote that the term can be a source of pride or comfort to some lesbians including those with traumatic experiences of masculinity but that it has cissexist implications 3 It can also be derogatory towards bisexual women 1 Shelby and Dolan in Lesbian Women and Sexual Health 2014 reported that gold star lesbian can be used by lesbians to stigmatise other women who have past or present sexual relationships with men 4 The social psychologist Petra Boynton in an opinion column for The Daily Telegraph said it is a toxic label that excludes bisexual women diversity within sexuality and gender victims of sexual violence and other life experiences Boynton said it can also be used as a slur against lesbians 5 Elizabeth Pearce in her PhD thesis documented people identifying as femme lesbians who were met dismissively by other lesbians whether through lack of a gold star or disbelief that they were a gold star lesbian 6 John Paul Brammer in his memoir Hola Papi How to Come Out in a Walmart Parking Lot and Other Life Lessons 2021 described gold star gay as a prolific phrase in gay circles and associated it with a performative disgust for women s genitalia or bodies that can reduce women Brammer rejected the term for treating a part of his past his high school relationship with a girlfriend as disposable 7 In Feminist Studies Nan Alamilla Boyd analysed lesbian history as the history of an idea rather than a group of people and considered the concept gold star lesbian or lifelong lesbian to hold a lot of ideological weight Boyd commented that the homophile movement predates the identity lesbian but that the idea of a lifelong lesbian later became useful to particular communities 8 In a PhD thesis Caroline Lippy said that gold star lesbian is a community stereotype reflective of communication or empathy barriers between some lesbians a gold star lesbian may be unable to provide empathy or advice to a lesbian with wider sexual experiences 9 Gold star asexual editThe term gold star asexual coined in 2010 by a blogger refers to an asexual person who is able bodied sociable and in all other ways considered normal It is a hypothetical ideal of a person whose asexuality will not be dismissed as it could not be attributed to trauma or other factors The term is a response to prejudice that being sexual is better than being asexual Unlike other gold star terms it does not indicate anything about past sexual activity 10 11 12 Example usages editAndy Cohen has identified with the term gold star gay in his memoir Superficial 2016 he recounts a story about his attitude towards a threesome with a heterosexual couple in light of his pride for being a gold star gay 13 In an article by the BBC the BBC described the lesbian pornographic actor Lily Cade as a gold star lesbian in connection with her refusal to have sex with transgender women 14 In Emergency Contact 2017 a season 9 Will amp Grace episode the term platinum star gay is jokingly used by a character to indicate that he is not only a gold star gay but was born via Caesarean section 15 According to women quoted in Cosmopolitan the term gold star lesbian had declined in popularity by 2021 but reflected a still existing concept 3 References edit a b Jones Lucy 2012 Dyke Girl Language and Identities in a Lesbian Group Palgrave Macmillan ISBN 9781137271341 Mason Derritt 2013 The Queer Art of Imperfection English Studies in Canada 39 2 3 13 15 doi 10 1353 esc 2013 0028 S2CID 142996705 ProQuest 1506457261 a b Eloise Marianne 26 January 2021 Gold star lesbian What s the deal with the term gold star lesbian Cosmopolitan Retrieved 22 December 2021 Shelby R Dennis Dolan Kathleen 2014 Lesbian Women and Sexual Health The Social Construction of Risk and Susceptibility Routledge p 34 ISBN 9781317718192 Boynton Petra 4 July 2017 I had sex with a man can I still be a lesbian The Daily Telegraph ProQuest 1915690615 Pearce Elizabeth 2012 The Intersection of Femme Gender and Lesbian Identity Development PhD Alliant International University Brammer John Paul 1 June 2021 How to Kiss Your Girlfriend Esquire Retrieved 22 December 2021 Boyd Nan Alamilla 2013 The History of the Idea of the Lesbian as a Kind of Person Feminist Studies 39 2 362 365 doi 10 1353 fem 2013 0042 S2CID 245658207 ProQuest 1508764643 Lippy Caroline 2011 Lean on me informal social networks and the prevention of intimate partner violence in sexual minority communities PhD Georgia State University Cerankowski Karli June Milks Megan 2014 Asexualities Feminist and Queer Perspectives Routledge pp 145 158 ISBN 9781134692460 Chen Angela 2020 Ace What Asexuality Reveals About Desire Society and the Meaning of Sex Beacon Press p 97 ISBN 9780807013793 SJ Dodd ed 2021 The Routledge International Handbook of Social Work and Sexualities Taylor amp Francis p 43 ISBN 9781000408614 Agard Chancellor 15 November 2016 Andy Cohen talks almost losing gold star gay status in threesome Entertainment Weekly Retrieved 22 December 2021 Andersson Jasmine 5 November 2021 How a BBC article on trans women and lesbians became the eye of the storm in a transphobia row i Retrieved 22 December 2021 Kirkland Justin 12 October 2017 Will amp Grace recap Emergency Contact Entertainment Weekly Retrieved 22 December 2021 Further reading editCallis April Scarlette 2011 Beyond the binary Identity subjectivity and the sexual borderlands PhD Purdue University See also editBiphobia Retrieved from https en wikipedia org w index php title Gold star LGBT slang amp oldid 1142149572, wikipedia, wiki, book, books, library,
