Romantic orientation

Romantic orientation, also called affectional orientation, is the classification of the sex or gender which a person experiences romantic attraction towards or is likely to have a romantic relationship with. The term is used alongside the term "sexual orientation", as well as being used alternatively to it, based upon the perspective that sexual attraction is only a single component of a larger concept.^[1]

For example, although a pansexual person may feel sexually attracted to people regardless of gender, the person may experience romantic attraction and intimacy with women only.

For asexual people, romantic orientation is often considered a more useful measure of attraction than sexual orientation.^[2][3]

The relationship between sexual attraction and romantic attraction is still under debate.^[4][5] Sexual and romantic attractions are often studied in conjunction. Even though studies of sexual and romantic spectrums are shedding light onto this under-researched subject, much is still not fully understood.^[6]

Romantic identities

Several terms redirect here. For other uses, see heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, pansexuality, polysexuality, plurisexuality, ambisexuality, allosexuality, and monosexuality.

People may or may not engage in purely emotional romantic relationships. The main identities relating to this are:^[2][3][7][8]

• Aromantic, meaning someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction (aromanticism).
  • For identities within the aromantic spectrum, see Aromantic spectrum.
• Alloromantic or zedromantic:^[9][10] Not aromantic (alloromanticism or zedromanticism).^[11][12][13]
  • Monoromantic: Romantic attraction towards person(s) of only one gender (monoromanticism).^[14][15][10]
    • Androromantic: Romantic attraction towards men or masculinity (androromanticism).^[16][17][18]
    • Gyneromantic or gynoromantic: Romantic attraction towards women or femininity (gyneromanticism or gynoromanticism).^[19][20][21]
    • Heteroromantic: Romantic attraction towards person(s) of the opposite gender (heteroromanticism).^[22]
    • Homoromantic: Romantic attraction towards person(s) of the same gender (homoromanticism).
  • Multiromantic or pluriromantic: Romantic attraction towards person(s) of multiple genders (multiromanticism or pluriromanticism).^[23][24][25]
    • Biromantic or ambiromantic: Romantic attraction towards two genders, or person(s) of the same and other genders (biromanticism or ambiromanticism).^[16][26] Sometimes used the same way as panromantic or multiromantic.^{[27][8][28][29]}
    • Panromantic or omniromantic:^[28] Romantic attraction towards person(s) regardless of gender or of any, every, and all genders (panromanticism or omniromanticism).^[28][30][31]
    • Polyromantic: Romantic attraction towards person(s) of various, but not all, genders (polyromanticism).^[32]
  • Skolioromantic or ceteroromantic: Romantic attraction towards genderqueer or non-binary person(s) (skolioromanticism or ceteroromanticism).^[26][33][10]
• Abroromantic: Fluid between romantic identities or in romantic attraction (abroromanticism).^[34][35] Not to be confused with aroflux.^[36]
• Pomoromantic: Rejecting preexisting romantic labels (pomoromanticism).^[26][16]

Relationship with sexual orientation and asexuality

Main article: Split attraction model

See also: Romantic attraction, Sexual orientation, and Sexual attraction

The implications of the distinction between romantic and sexual orientations have not been fully recognized, nor have they been studied extensively.^[37] It is common for sources to describe sexual orientation as including components of both sexual and romantic (or romantic equivalent) attractions.^[5][37] Publications investigating the relationship between sexual orientation and romantic orientation are limited. Challenges in collecting information result from survey participants having difficulty identifying or distinguishing between sexual and romantic attractions.^[5][38][39] Asexual individuals experience little to no sexual attraction (see gray asexuality); however, they may still experience romantic attraction.^[40][41] Lisa M. Diamond states that a person's romantic orientation can differ from whom the person is sexually attracted to.^[4] While there is limited research on the discordance between sexual attraction and romantic attraction in individuals, the possibility of fluidity and diversity in attractions have been progressively recognized.^[42][43] Researchers Bulmer and Izuma found that people who identify as aromantic often have more negative attitudes in relation to romance. While roughly 1% of the population identifies as asexual, 74% of those people reported having some form of romantic attraction.^[29]

A concept commonly used by people that experience discordant romantic and sexual attraction is the split attraction model, which tries to explain that romantic and sexual attractions are not exclusively tied together and is often used by people of the asexual and aromantic community to explain their differing romantic versus sexual orientations.

Aromanticism

 

Simplified diagram of the aromantic and asexual spectra

Main article: Aromanticism

Aromanticism is a romantic orientation characterized by experiencing little to no romantic attraction.^[44][45][46] The term "aromantic", colloquially shortened to "aro", refers to a person who identifies their romantic orientation as aromanticism.^[47][48]

As a romantic minority, it is included in the initialism LGBTQIA+ as the A, standing for aromanticism, along with asexual and agender.^[49]

See also

• Bromance
• Cross-sex friendship
• Emotional affair
• Heterosociality
• Homosociality
• Queerplatonic relationship
• Romantic friendship
• Womance

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• King, Laura (2010). The Science of Psychology: An Appreciative View. McGraw Hill Professional. ISBN 978-0-07-353206-6.
• Marshall Cavendish Corporation, ed. (2009). "Asexuality". Sex and Society. Vol. 1. Marshall Cavendish Reference. pp. 82–83. ISBN 978-0-7614-7905-5. Retrieved April 24, 2020.
• Wells, J. W. (1989). "Teaching about Gay and Lesbian Sexual and Affectional Orientation Using Explicit Films to Reduce Homophobia". Journal of Humanistic Education and Development. 28 (1): 18–34. doi:10.1002/j.2164-4683.1989.tb00179.x.