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Spinster

Spinster is a term referring to an unmarried woman who is older than what is perceived as the prime age range during which women usually marry. It can also indicate that a woman is considered unlikely to ever marry.[1] The term originally denoted a woman whose occupation was to spin. A synonymous term is old maid.[2] The closest equivalent term for males is "bachelor" or "confirmed bachelor", but this generally does not carry the same connotations in reference to age and perceived desirability in marriage.

A poem entitled "It won't be my fault if I die an Old Maid", containing the lines "Remember no thought to a girl is so dread / As the terrible one—She may die an Old Maid."

Etymology and history edit

 
The Spinner by William-Adolphe Bouguereau shows a woman hand-spinning using a drop spindle. Fibers to be spun are bound to a distaff held in her left hand.
 
Monument to Peg Woffington (1720–1760) in St Mary's church, Teddington which describes her marital status

Long before the Industrial Age, "the art & calling of being a spinster" denoted girls and women who spun wool. According to the Online Etymological Dictionary, spinning was "commonly done by unmarried women, hence the word came to denote" an unmarried woman in legal documents from the 1600s to the early 1900s, and "by 1719 was being used generically for 'woman still unmarried and beyond the usual age for it'".[3] As a denotation for unmarried women in a legal context, the term dates back to at least 1699,[4] and was commonly used in banns of marriage of the Church of England where the prospective bride was described as a "spinster of this parish".[5]

The Oxford American Dictionary tags "spinster" (meaning "...unmarried woman, typically an older woman beyond the usual age for marriage") as "derogatory" and "a good example of the way in which a word acquires strong connotations to the extent that it can no longer be used in a neutral sense."[6]

The 1828 and 1913 editions of Merriam Webster's Dictionary defined spinster in two ways:

  1. A woman who spins, or whose occupation is to spin.
  2. Law: An unmarried or single woman.[7]

By the 1800s, the term had evolved to include women who chose not to marry. During that century middle-class spinsters, as well as their married peers, took ideals of love and marriage very seriously, and spinsterhood was indeed often a consequence of their adherence to those ideals. They remained unmarried not because of individual shortcomings but because they didn't find the one "who could be all things to the heart".[8]

One 19th-century editorial in the fashion publication Peterson's Magazine encouraged women to remain choosy in selecting a mate — even at the price of never marrying. The editorial, titled "Honorable Often to Be an Old Maid", advised women: "Marry for a home! Marry to escape the ridicule of being called an old maid? How dare you, then, pervert the most sacred institution of the Almighty, by becoming the wife of a man for whom you can feel no emotions of love, or respect even?"[8]

Current use edit

The Oxford American English Dictionary defines spinster as "an unmarried woman, typically an older woman beyond the usual age for marriage". It adds: "In modern everyday English, however, spinster cannot be used to mean simply 'unmarried woman'; as such, it is a derogatory term, referring or alluding to a stereotype of an older woman who is unmarried, childless, prissy, and repressed."[6]

Currently, Merriam-Webster's Dictionary defines the "unmarried woman" sense of the term in three ways: (1) an archaic usage meaning "an unmarried woman of gentle family", (2) a meaning related to (1) but not tagged as archaic: "an unmarried woman and especially one past the common age for marrying" and (3) "a woman who seems unlikely to marry".[9]

Dictionary.com describes the "woman still unmarried beyond the usual age of marrying" sense of the term as "Disparaging and Offensive". A usage note goes on to say that this sense "is ... perceived as insulting. It implies negative qualities such as being fussy or undesirable". Also included is a sense of the word used specifically in a legal context: "a woman who has never married".[10]

Wordreference.com describes the "woman still unmarried" sense of spinster as "dated".[11]

Age is a crucial part of the definition, according to Robin Lakoff's explanation in Language and Woman's Place: "If someone is a spinster, by implication she is not eligible [to marry]; she has had her chance, and been passed by. Hence, a girl of twenty cannot be properly called a spinster: she still has a chance to be married".[12] Yet other sources on terms describing a never-married woman indicate that the term applies to a woman as soon as she is of legal age or age of majority (see bachelorette, single).

The title "spinster" has been embraced by feminists like Sheila Jeffreys, whose book The Spinster and Her Enemies (1985) defines spinsters simply as women who have chosen to reject sexual relationships with men.[13] In her 2015 book, Spinster, Making a Life of One's Own, Kate Bolick has written, "To me, the spinster is self-reliant and inscrutable. We think we know what the wife is up to and what the mother is up to but the single woman is mysterious. I like that mystery. So the term is a useful way to hold onto the idea of autonomy that can get so easily lost inside of marriage or motherhood".[14]

In 2005, in England and Wales, the term was abolished in favour of "single" for the purpose of marriage registration.[15] However, it is still often used when the banns of marriage are read by Church of England parish churches.[citation needed]

Research edit

A 2009 University of Missouri study of 32 women found that modern "spinsters" feel a social stigma attached to their status and a sense of both heightened visibility and invisibility. "Heightened visibility came from feelings of exposure and invisibility came from assumptions made by others".[16][17]

Women and marriage edit

Women may not have married for a variety (and/or combination) of reasons, including personal inclination, a dearth of eligible men (whose numbers can decrease dramatically during war conflicts), and socio-economic conditions (that is, the availability of livelihoods for women). Writer and spinster Louisa May Alcott famously wrote that "liberty is a better husband than love to many of us".[18] Social status issues could also arise where it was unacceptable for a woman to marry below her social rank but her parents lacked the funds to support a marriage within their social rank.[19]

In the early 19th century, particularly in England, women would fall under coverture, stating that all property and contracts in their name would be ceded to their husbands. This was particularly common in women who owned businesses.[citation needed]

The First World War (1914–1918) prevented many within a generation of women from experiencing romance and marriage or having children.[20]

In modern peacetime societies with wide opportunities for romance, marriage and children, there are other reasons that women remain single as they approach old age. Psychologist Erik Erikson postulated that during young adulthood (ages 18 to 39), individuals experience an inner conflict between a desire for intimacy (i.e., a committed relationship leading to marriage) and a desire for isolation (i.e., fear of commitment).[21] Other reasons women may choose not to marry include a focus on career, a desire for an independent life, economic considerations, or an unwillingness to make the compromises expected in a marriage.[22]

Some writers have suggested that to understand why women do not marry, one should examine reasons women do marry and why it may be assumed they should marry in the first place. According to Adrienne Rich, "Women have married because it was necessary, in order to economically, in order to have children who would not suffer economic deprivation or social ostracism, in order to remain respectable, in order to do what was expected of women because coming out of 'abnormal' childhoods they wanted to feel 'normal', and because heterosexual romance has been represented as the great female adventure, duty, and fulfillment".[23]

See also edit

References edit

  1. ^ "Spinster", Merriam-Webster Dictionary, 25 June 2023
  2. ^ "Spinster". WordReference.com. Retrieved 2 April 2016.
  3. ^ Douglas Harper (2010). "spinster defined". Online Etymology Dictionary. Dictionary.com Unabridged. Retrieved 5 June 2014.
  4. ^ "John West, Sexual Offences: assault with intent". Old Bailey Proceedings Online. 13 December 1699. Retrieved 28 July 2012. for assaulting on Mary Bowden, Spinster, a Virgin, under the Age of Ten Years
  5. ^ "Marriage service rubric". The Book of Common Prayer.
  6. ^ a b . American English. Oxford dictiionaries. Archived from the original on 14 December 2012. Retrieved 11 June 2014.
  7. ^ . Archived from the original on 22 February 2014. Retrieved 8 November 2012.
  8. ^ a b Berend, Zsuzsa (2000). "'The Best or None!' Spinsterhood in Nineteenth-Century New England". Journal of Social History. 33 (4): 935–957. doi:10.1353/jsh.2000.0056. PMID 18050547. S2CID 40799246.
  9. ^ "spinster definition". Merriam-Webster. Retrieved 5 June 2014.
  10. ^ "spinster defined". Based on the Random House Dictionary, Random House, Inc. Dictionary.com Unabridged. 2014. Retrieved 5 June 2014.
  11. ^ "Spinster". WordReference.com. Retrieved 19 October 2016.
  12. ^ Lakoff, Robin (1975). Language and Woman's Place. New York: Harper and Row. ISBN 9780060903893.
  13. ^ Jeffreys, Sheila (1985). The Spinster and Her Enemies: Feminism and Sexuality 1880–1930. Pandora Press. ISBN 9780863580505.
  14. ^ Bielski, Zosia (7 May 2015). "In her new book, Kate Bolick argues why there’s nothing wrong with being a 'spinster'". The Globe and Mail.
  15. ^ "R.I.P Bachelors and Spinsters". BBC. 14 September 2005. Retrieved 8 April 2013.
  16. ^ "Single Women Still Feel Spinster Stigma, Study Finds". LiveScience. March 2010.
  17. ^ Sharp, Elizabeth A.; Ganong, Lawrence (2011). "'I'm a Loser, I'm Not Married, Let's Just All Look at Me': Ever-Single Women's Perceptions of Their Social Environment". Journal of Family Issues. 32 (7): 956–980. doi:10.1177/0192513X10392537. S2CID 146368386.
  18. ^ "Louisa May Alcott, Spinster, Enjoys Valentine's Day 1868". New England Historical Society. 14 February 2015. Retrieved 19 October 2016.
  19. ^ Hill, Bridget (2001). Women Alone Spinsters in England 1660–1850. Yale University Press. p. 10. ISBN 0300088205.
  20. ^ Nicholson, Virginia (2007). Singled Out: How Two Million Women Survived Without Men After the First World War.
  21. ^ Harder, Arlene (2009). The Developmental Stages of Erik Erikson.
  22. ^ Schwartz, Pepper (15 October 2014). "Why more women choose not to marry". CNN.
  23. ^ Rich, Adrienne (1980). "Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence". Signs: Journal of Women in Culture and Society. 5 (4): 631–660. doi:10.1086/493756. S2CID 143604951.

Further reading edit

  • Mustard, Deborah J. (2000). . Journal of Media Psychology. 4. Archived from the original on 26 September 2012.
  • by Wendy Braitman
  • Barbie: Always a Bridesmaid, Never a Bride by Wendy Braitman

External links edit

  •   The dictionary definition of spinster at Wiktionary
  •   Media related to Spinsters at Wikimedia Commons

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For the 2019 Canadian film see Spinster film Old maid redirects here For other uses see Old maid disambiguation Spinster is a term referring to an unmarried woman who is older than what is perceived as the prime age range during which women usually marry It can also indicate that a woman is considered unlikely to ever marry 1 The term originally denoted a woman whose occupation was to spin A synonymous term is old maid 2 The closest equivalent term for males is bachelor or confirmed bachelor but this generally does not carry the same connotations in reference to age and perceived desirability in marriage A poem entitled It won t be my fault if I die an Old Maid containing the lines Remember no thought to a girl is so dread As the terrible one She may die an Old Maid Contents 1 Etymology and history 2 Current use 3 Research 4 Women and marriage 5 See also 6 References 7 Further reading 8 External linksEtymology and history edit nbsp The Spinner by William Adolphe Bouguereau shows a woman hand spinning using a drop spindle Fibers to be spun are bound to a distaff held in her left hand nbsp Monument to Peg Woffington 1720 1760 in St Mary s church Teddington which describes her marital status Long before the Industrial Age the art amp calling of being a spinster denoted girls and women who spun wool According to the Online Etymological Dictionary spinning was commonly done by unmarried women hence the word came to denote an unmarried woman in legal documents from the 1600s to the early 1900s and by 1719 was being used generically for woman still unmarried and beyond the usual age for it 3 As a denotation for unmarried women in a legal context the term dates back to at least 1699 4 and was commonly used in banns of marriage of the Church of England where the prospective bride was described as a spinster of this parish 5 The Oxford American Dictionary tags spinster meaning unmarried woman typically an older woman beyond the usual age for marriage as derogatory and a good example of the way in which a word acquires strong connotations to the extent that it can no longer be used in a neutral sense 6 The 1828 and 1913 editions of Merriam Webster s Dictionary defined spinster in two ways A woman who spins or whose occupation is to spin Law An unmarried or single woman 7 By the 1800s the term had evolved to include women who chose not to marry During that century middle class spinsters as well as their married peers took ideals of love and marriage very seriously and spinsterhood was indeed often a consequence of their adherence to those ideals They remained unmarried not because of individual shortcomings but because they didn t find the one who could be all things to the heart 8 One 19th century editorial in the fashion publication Peterson s Magazine encouraged women to remain choosy in selecting a mate even at the price of never marrying The editorial titled Honorable Often to Be an Old Maid advised women Marry for a home Marry to escape the ridicule of being called an old maid How dare you then pervert the most sacred institution of the Almighty by becoming the wife of a man for whom you can feel no emotions of love or respect even 8 Current use editThe Oxford American English Dictionary defines spinster as an unmarried woman typically an older woman beyond the usual age for marriage It adds In modern everyday English however spinster cannot be used to mean simply unmarried woman as such it is a derogatory term referring or alluding to a stereotype of an older woman who is unmarried childless prissy and repressed 6 Currently Merriam Webster s Dictionary defines the unmarried woman sense of the term in three ways 1 an archaic usage meaning an unmarried woman of gentle family 2 a meaning related to 1 but not tagged as archaic an unmarried woman and especially one past the common age for marrying and 3 a woman who seems unlikely to marry 9 Dictionary com describes the woman still unmarried beyond the usual age of marrying sense of the term as Disparaging and Offensive A usage note goes on to say that this sense is perceived as insulting It implies negative qualities such as being fussy or undesirable Also included is a sense of the word used specifically in a legal context a woman who has never married 10 Wordreference com describes the woman still unmarried sense of spinster as dated 11 Age is a crucial part of the definition according to Robin Lakoff s explanation in Language and Woman s Place If someone is a spinster by implication she is not eligible to marry she has had her chance and been passed by Hence a girl of twenty cannot be properly called a spinster she still has a chance to be married 12 Yet other sources on terms describing a never married woman indicate that the term applies to a woman as soon as she is of legal age or age of majority see bachelorette single The title spinster has been embraced by feminists like Sheila Jeffreys whose book The Spinster and Her Enemies 1985 defines spinsters simply as women who have chosen to reject sexual relationships with men 13 In her 2015 book Spinster Making a Life of One s Own Kate Bolick has written To me the spinster is self reliant and inscrutable We think we know what the wife is up to and what the mother is up to but the single woman is mysterious I like that mystery So the term is a useful way to hold onto the idea of autonomy that can get so easily lost inside of marriage or motherhood 14 In 2005 in England and Wales the term was abolished in favour of single for the purpose of marriage registration 15 However it is still often used when the banns of marriage are read by Church of England parish churches citation needed Research editA 2009 University of Missouri study of 32 women found that modern spinsters feel a social stigma attached to their status and a sense of both heightened visibility and invisibility Heightened visibility came from feelings of exposure and invisibility came from assumptions made by others 16 17 Women and marriage editWomen may not have married for a variety and or combination of reasons including personal inclination a dearth of eligible men whose numbers can decrease dramatically during war conflicts and socio economic conditions that is the availability of livelihoods for women Writer and spinster Louisa May Alcott famously wrote that liberty is a better husband than love to many of us 18 Social status issues could also arise where it was unacceptable for a woman to marry below her social rank but her parents lacked the funds to support a marriage within their social rank 19 In the early 19th century particularly in England women would fall under coverture stating that all property and contracts in their name would be ceded to their husbands This was particularly common in women who owned businesses citation needed The First World War 1914 1918 prevented many within a generation of women from experiencing romance and marriage or having children 20 In modern peacetime societies with wide opportunities for romance marriage and children there are other reasons that women remain single as they approach old age Psychologist Erik Erikson postulated that during young adulthood ages 18 to 39 individuals experience an inner conflict between a desire for intimacy i e a committed relationship leading to marriage and a desire for isolation i e fear of commitment 21 Other reasons women may choose not to marry include a focus on career a desire for an independent life economic considerations or an unwillingness to make the compromises expected in a marriage 22 Some writers have suggested that to understand why women do not marry one should examine reasons women do marry and why it may be assumed they should marry in the first place According to Adrienne Rich Women have married because it was necessary in order to economically in order to have children who would not suffer economic deprivation or social ostracism in order to remain respectable in order to do what was expected of women because coming out of abnormal childhoods they wanted to feel normal and because heterosexual romance has been represented as the great female adventure duty and fulfillment 23 See also editCat lady Catherinette Hikikomori Medieval singlewomen She never married Sheng nuReferences edit Spinster Merriam Webster Dictionary 25 June 2023 Spinster WordReference com Retrieved 2 April 2016 Douglas Harper 2010 spinster defined Online Etymology Dictionary Dictionary com Unabridged Retrieved 5 June 2014 John West Sexual Offences assault with intent Old Bailey Proceedings Online 13 December 1699 Retrieved 28 July 2012 for assaulting on Mary Bowden Spinster a Virgin under the Age of Ten Years Marriage service rubric The Book of Common Prayer a b spinster defined American English Oxford dictiionaries Archived from the original on 14 December 2012 Retrieved 11 June 2014 Webster s Revised Unabridged Dictionary 1913 1828 Archived from the original on 22 February 2014 Retrieved 8 November 2012 a b Berend Zsuzsa 2000 The Best or None Spinsterhood in Nineteenth Century New England Journal of Social History 33 4 935 957 doi 10 1353 jsh 2000 0056 PMID 18050547 S2CID 40799246 spinster definition Merriam Webster Retrieved 5 June 2014 spinster defined Based on the Random House Dictionary Random House Inc Dictionary com Unabridged 2014 Retrieved 5 June 2014 Spinster WordReference com Retrieved 19 October 2016 Lakoff Robin 1975 Language and Woman s Place New York Harper and Row ISBN 9780060903893 Jeffreys Sheila 1985 The Spinster and Her Enemies Feminism and Sexuality 1880 1930 Pandora Press ISBN 9780863580505 Bielski Zosia 7 May 2015 In her new book Kate Bolick argues why there s nothing wrong with being a spinster The Globe and Mail R I P Bachelors and Spinsters BBC 14 September 2005 Retrieved 8 April 2013 Single Women Still Feel Spinster Stigma Study Finds LiveScience March 2010 Sharp Elizabeth A Ganong Lawrence 2011 I m a Loser I m Not Married Let s Just All Look at Me Ever Single Women s Perceptions of Their Social Environment Journal of Family Issues 32 7 956 980 doi 10 1177 0192513X10392537 S2CID 146368386 Louisa May Alcott Spinster Enjoys Valentine s Day 1868 New England Historical Society 14 February 2015 Retrieved 19 October 2016 Hill Bridget 2001 Women Alone Spinsters in England 1660 1850 Yale University Press p 10 ISBN 0300088205 Nicholson Virginia 2007 Singled Out How Two Million Women Survived Without Men After the First World War Harder Arlene 2009 The Developmental Stages of Erik Erikson Schwartz Pepper 15 October 2014 Why more women choose not to marry CNN Rich Adrienne 1980 Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence Signs Journal of Women in Culture and Society 5 4 631 660 doi 10 1086 493756 S2CID 143604951 Further reading editMustard Deborah J 2000 Spinster An Evolving Stereotype Revealed Through Film Journal of Media Psychology 4 Archived from the original on 26 September 2012 Goodbye to the Spinster by Wendy Braitman Barbie Always a Bridesmaid Never a Bride by Wendy BraitmanExternal links edit nbsp The dictionary definition of spinster at Wiktionary nbsp Media related to Spinsters at Wikimedia Commons Retrieved from https en wikipedia org w index php title Spinster amp oldid 1222186192, wikipedia, wiki, book, books, library,

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