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Erotic sexual denial

Erotic sexual denial is the practice of refraining from sexual experiences in order to increase erotic arousal and/or tension.[1] The prohibited experience can be narrowly or broadly defined and banned for a specific or indeterminate length of time depending on the practitioner. The experience withheld can be any favored or desired sexual activities, such as specific acts or positions, provided it is something the practitioner wants. Erotic sexual denial is commonly used as sex play between intimate partners, but it can also be indulged in as an individual practice.

A chastity device with penis tube and padlock

Orgasm control practices like edging are well-known varieties of erotic sexual denial in which a person is kept in a heightened state of sexual arousal for an extended length of time without orgasm.[2] Another form of erotic sexual denial is the reduction or deprivation of all genital stimulation, often ensured by use a chastity device or other physical barrier to genital touch or full erection. Another frequently mentioned variety is the use of dice or other games of chance by couples to determine how long a person is to be withheld oral and/or penetrative sex, etc., from their partner. Erotic sexual denial is commonly, but not exclusively, practiced in association with BDSM and sexual bondage.

Denial practices

Tie and tease

To be able to control an orgasm of a partner in such sex games, physical restraints are commonly used. Situations involving bondage are typically called "tie and tease" and can be thought of as extended tease and denial games. This practice is often an integral part of erotic denial. It is notable that in discussions between BDSM partners, negotiation usually focuses on the activities which may or may not be agreed to. Tie and tease activities are physically as well as psychologically intense, because the strong feelings of sexual frustration are escalated by the sensation of helplessness induced by bondage.

Tease and denial

 
Modern chastity cage for men

Tease and denial is a situation where a person is stimulated until they are close to orgasm, then stimulation is stopped, keeping the person on the brink of orgasm. It is sometimes referred to as "edging".[3] This is similar to orgasm control, but without the promise of orgasm at the end.

If orgasm still occurs after removal of stimulation, it typically brings less pleasure than usual, and is considered a "ruined orgasm",[4] as opposed to being a "denied orgasm" (which can sometimes lead to "blue balls" for both men and women). Alternatively (for men), the release of semen during the emission phase of ejaculation might be prevented by some sort of constriction ("blocked orgasm"). Depending on the relationship, subjects might be repeatedly teased to the point of orgasm several times, but without actual orgasm, causing feelings of intense arousal and psychological need.

Total denial

The practice of total sexual denial usually includes total avoidance of genital stimulation to the penis or vulva. This often involves the use of a physical barrier or device such as a chastity belt. Chastity belts or similar locking devices are available for both men and women. Depending on the situation, sexual arousal may still be possible regardless of physical barriers to genital stimulation. This, however, depends on the belt used.

Male strap-on harness

A strap-on dildo may be worn by a male to still allow penetrative vaginal sex to the female while denying the male partner the ability to orgasm, and the male then may also wear a chastity device.[5] This is distinct from pegging, as the strap-on in this case replaces the penis of the male. This can be seen as a form of total denial if the strap-on replaces the penis throughout the whole duration of the play, or as a form of teasing if the strap-on is only used during foreplay. In the last case, the strap-on can be used to prolong penetrative sex and thus sexually satisfy the female partner in case the male suffers from premature ejaculation.[6][7][8]

As a form of control

Erotic sexual denial is sometimes used by a dominant to increase their control over a submissive. Because the submissive is kept in a state of sexual need and vulnerability, they are more likely to take a compliant stance with the dominant; failure to comply can result in additional teasing or an extended period of denial, among other punishments.

Orgasm denial practices can allow the dominant to exercise control over many aspects of the submissive's life. As such, they are often (though not always) practiced as an extension or enhancement of a broader BDSM relationship, or as a means of establishing one. They can allow the dominant to experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of sexual control and erotic power, and the submissive can enjoy intense feelings of sexual objectification and submission to the dominant.

Orgasm denial can also be used to increase a submissive's tolerance for physical stimulation, as training in holding back an orgasm, or to allow the submissive to orgasm on command; as a way to maintain a heightened state of sexual arousal in the submissive, or as a means of erotic humiliation desired by either the submissive or the dominant.

Erotic humiliation can also help enforce the dominant's position in the relationship. Orgasm denial is often accompanied by other forms of erotic humiliation such as forcing the submissive to do chores, crossdress, or consume bodily fluids. These can be used as punishments, as conditions for release, or simply at the discretion of the dominant.

 
A metal type chastity cage, using an integrated lock instead of the standard padlock.

See also

References

  1. ^ Reagene, Dominic Paul (2014). BDSM & Fetish Dictionary of Kink, 2nd Edition. New York: Muze Management Publishing. p. 46. ISBN 9781507033999.
  2. ^ Reagene, Dominic Paul (2014). BDSM & Fetish Dictionary of Kink, 2nd Edition. New York: Muze Management Publishing. p. 82. ISBN 9781507033999.
  3. ^ Jewell, Tim (12 February 2019). "A Guide to Mastering Orgasm Control for More Satisfying Sex". healthline.com. from the original on 27 August 2019. Retrieved 17 September 2019.
  4. ^ Hsieh, Carina (31 July 2019). "Everything You Need to Know About Ruined Orgasms". Cosmopolitan. from the original on 10 October 2019. Retrieved 17 September 2019.
  5. ^ "Male Dildo Harness - A guide for Men how to wear a strap-on". from the original on 31 August 2018. Retrieved 31 August 2018.
  6. ^ . Archived from the original on 9 August 2018. Retrieved 31 August 2018.
  7. ^ "Savage Love Letter of the Day: He's Perfect, But a Premie - Slog - The Stranger". from the original on 30 August 2018. Retrieved 31 August 2018.
  8. ^ "Rose Answers: Premature Ejaculation 101 – Pure Pleasure Shop". from the original on 30 August 2018. Retrieved 31 August 2018.

Further reading

  • Georgia Ivey Green, A KeyHolder's Handbook, Georgia Ivey Green, 2013
  • Georgia Ivey Green, Ultimate Guide to Tease and Denial, CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform, 2015
  • Ken Addison, Around Her Finger, Venus, 2004
  • Lucy Fairbourne, Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders, Velluminous Press, 2015
  • Elise Sutton, Female Domination, LULU, 2003
  • Barbara Wright Abernathy, Venus on Top, Oakhill Press, 2010
  • Georgeann Cross, Sexual Power for Women, Georgeann Cross, 1997

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This article needs additional citations for verification Please help improve this article by adding citations to reliable sources Unsourced material may be challenged and removed Find sources Erotic sexual denial news newspapers books scholar JSTOR September 2018 Learn how and when to remove this template message Erotic sexual denial is the practice of refraining from sexual experiences in order to increase erotic arousal and or tension 1 The prohibited experience can be narrowly or broadly defined and banned for a specific or indeterminate length of time depending on the practitioner The experience withheld can be any favored or desired sexual activities such as specific acts or positions provided it is something the practitioner wants Erotic sexual denial is commonly used as sex play between intimate partners but it can also be indulged in as an individual practice A chastity device with penis tube and padlock Orgasm control practices like edging are well known varieties of erotic sexual denial in which a person is kept in a heightened state of sexual arousal for an extended length of time without orgasm 2 Another form of erotic sexual denial is the reduction or deprivation of all genital stimulation often ensured by use a chastity device or other physical barrier to genital touch or full erection Another frequently mentioned variety is the use of dice or other games of chance by couples to determine how long a person is to be withheld oral and or penetrative sex etc from their partner Erotic sexual denial is commonly but not exclusively practiced in association with BDSM and sexual bondage Contents 1 Denial practices 1 1 Tie and tease 1 2 Tease and denial 1 3 Total denial 1 4 Male strap on harness 2 As a form of control 3 See also 4 References 5 Further readingDenial practices EditTie and tease Edit To be able to control an orgasm of a partner in such sex games physical restraints are commonly used Situations involving bondage are typically called tie and tease and can be thought of as extended tease and denial games This practice is often an integral part of erotic denial It is notable that in discussions between BDSM partners negotiation usually focuses on the activities which may or may not be agreed to Tie and tease activities are physically as well as psychologically intense because the strong feelings of sexual frustration are escalated by the sensation of helplessness induced by bondage Tease and denial Edit Modern chastity cage for men Chastity piercing Tease and denial is a situation where a person is stimulated until they are close to orgasm then stimulation is stopped keeping the person on the brink of orgasm It is sometimes referred to as edging 3 This is similar to orgasm control but without the promise of orgasm at the end If orgasm still occurs after removal of stimulation it typically brings less pleasure than usual and is considered a ruined orgasm 4 as opposed to being a denied orgasm which can sometimes lead to blue balls for both men and women Alternatively for men the release of semen during the emission phase of ejaculation might be prevented by some sort of constriction blocked orgasm Depending on the relationship subjects might be repeatedly teased to the point of orgasm several times but without actual orgasm causing feelings of intense arousal and psychological need Total denial Edit The practice of total sexual denial usually includes total avoidance of genital stimulation to the penis or vulva This often involves the use of a physical barrier or device such as a chastity belt Chastity belts or similar locking devices are available for both men and women Depending on the situation sexual arousal may still be possible regardless of physical barriers to genital stimulation This however depends on the belt used Male strap on harness Edit A strap on dildo may be worn by a male to still allow penetrative vaginal sex to the female while denying the male partner the ability to orgasm and the male then may also wear a chastity device 5 This is distinct from pegging as the strap on in this case replaces the penis of the male This can be seen as a form of total denial if the strap on replaces the penis throughout the whole duration of the play or as a form of teasing if the strap on is only used during foreplay In the last case the strap on can be used to prolong penetrative sex and thus sexually satisfy the female partner in case the male suffers from premature ejaculation 6 7 8 As a form of control EditErotic sexual denial is sometimes used by a dominant to increase their control over a submissive Because the submissive is kept in a state of sexual need and vulnerability they are more likely to take a compliant stance with the dominant failure to comply can result in additional teasing or an extended period of denial among other punishments Orgasm denial practices can allow the dominant to exercise control over many aspects of the submissive s life As such they are often though not always practiced as an extension or enhancement of a broader BDSM relationship or as a means of establishing one They can allow the dominant to experience enjoyable and sometimes intensely craved feelings of sexual control and erotic power and the submissive can enjoy intense feelings of sexual objectification and submission to the dominant Orgasm denial can also be used to increase a submissive s tolerance for physical stimulation as training in holding back an orgasm or to allow the submissive to orgasm on command as a way to maintain a heightened state of sexual arousal in the submissive or as a means of erotic humiliation desired by either the submissive or the dominant Erotic humiliation can also help enforce the dominant s position in the relationship Orgasm denial is often accompanied by other forms of erotic humiliation such as forcing the submissive to do chores crossdress or consume bodily fluids These can be used as punishments as conditions for release or simply at the discretion of the dominant A metal type chastity cage using an integrated lock instead of the standard padlock See also EditChastity piercing Coitus reservatus Delayed ejaculation Forced feminization Forced orgasm Erotic humiliation Eroto comatose lucidity a form of erotic sexual denialReferences Edit Reagene Dominic Paul 2014 BDSM amp Fetish Dictionary of Kink 2nd Edition New York Muze Management Publishing p 46 ISBN 9781507033999 Reagene Dominic Paul 2014 BDSM amp Fetish Dictionary of Kink 2nd Edition New York Muze Management Publishing p 82 ISBN 9781507033999 Jewell Tim 12 February 2019 A Guide to Mastering Orgasm Control for More Satisfying Sex healthline com Archived from the original on 27 August 2019 Retrieved 17 September 2019 Hsieh Carina 31 July 2019 Everything You Need to Know About Ruined Orgasms Cosmopolitan Archived from the original on 10 October 2019 Retrieved 17 September 2019 Male Dildo Harness A guide for Men how to wear a strap on Archived from the original on 31 August 2018 Retrieved 31 August 2018 Beginners Guide Purchasing Your First Strap On Harness Gritty Woman Archived from the original on 9 August 2018 Retrieved 31 August 2018 Savage Love Letter of the Day He s Perfect But a Premie Slog The Stranger Archived from the original on 30 August 2018 Retrieved 31 August 2018 Rose Answers Premature Ejaculation 101 Pure Pleasure Shop Archived from the original on 30 August 2018 Retrieved 31 August 2018 Further reading EditGeorgia Ivey Green A KeyHolder s Handbook Georgia Ivey Green 2013 Georgia Ivey Green Ultimate Guide to Tease and Denial CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform 2015 Ken Addison Around Her Finger Venus 2004 Lucy Fairbourne Male Chastity A Guide for Keyholders Velluminous Press 2015 Elise Sutton Female Domination LULU 2003 Barbara Wright Abernathy Venus on Top Oakhill Press 2010 Georgeann Cross Sexual Power for Women Georgeann Cross 1997 Retrieved from https en wikipedia org w index php title Erotic sexual denial amp oldid 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