In Internet slang, DH is an abbreviation for dear husband; it is commonly used by women on certain forums to refer to their husbands. Similarly, DD means dear daughter and DS means dear son. The Oxford Dictionary of English dates the origin of DH to the 1990s.[1] It was a part of Internet culture as far back as America Online[2][3] and remains part of a common "lingua franca across a broad array of parenting boards."[4]
Online communities often develop what lexicographers call a language for special purposes (LSP). A study of the language for special purposes (LSP) used on breast-cancer and infertility forums found that the corpus of both communities was defined by brevity, humor and intra-group unity, in part expressed by replacing terms that would be used in conventional/professional communication settings, such as male partner or luteal phase, with vocabulary particular to the layperson-to-layperson community, such as DH and 2WW [two-week wait].[5]
Hof (2006) writes that DH is not merely shorthand meant to save time, but a "cheeky reference".[6]Drentea & Moren-Cross (2005) write that using DH and DD help stressed-out women maintain their "good mother" social role by softening complaints about their families. The usage of "dear" can also be sarcastic.[7]Owens (2007) writes that DH "suggests a certain distancing".[8]
A statistical analysis of approximately 50 million posts on a parenting forum found that "Almost five percent of posts are about dh, or dear husband, but these posts tend to express more negative emotion than other posts." The researcher theorized that the relative anonymity of the forum and the ability to dissociate and compartmentalize online contribute to this effect, asserting "This culture of disinhibition and conventional signaling creates a safe space online for moms to explore their own roles and identity and a variety of other topics." The study also found that "there were only 48 references to dear husband across all of YBM posts compared to over 270,000 references to dh..." suggesting that the use of DH plays a role in in-group signaling and community cohesion.[4]
DH and related terms are prevalent in a number of Internet subcultures that center female sexuality such as infertility/trying to conceive support groups,[9] egg donation forums,[10] ectopic pregnancy communities,[11] breastfeeding-support communities,[12] and on parenting forums where division of labor between parents of different genders has become an issue, especially after the arrival of a newborn[13] or in times of broader crisis, such as during a global pandemic.[14]DH appears in conversations about family, sexuality and relationships within Muslim,[15] LDS,[16] and Jewish[17] online communities. On one breast cancer forum, where the majority of users are women aged 40 to 60, a statistical analysis of posts shows that typing out "husband" is associated with short-time members, while "my DD" (rather than "daughter") is associated with long-time members.[18]
Referencesedit
^Oxford dictionary of English. Angus Stevenson (3rd ed.). New York, NY: Oxford University Press. 2010. ISBN978-0-19-172766-5. OCLC 700212397.{{cite book}}: CS1 maint: others (link)
^ abSchoenebeck, Sarita Yardi (2013). The Secret Life of Online Moms: Anonymity and Disinhibition on YouBeMom.com. Proceedings of the Seventh International AAAI Conference on Weblogs and Social Media (Report). Association for the Advancement of Artificial Intelligence. Retrieved 19 January 2023.
^Bowker, Lynne; Herrera, Carolina (24 October 2005). "A new Internet-based Communicative Setting: Exploring its Impact on Language for Special Purposes". Lexicographica. 20 (2004): 33–55. doi:10.1515/9783484604674.33. ISSN 1865-9403. S2CID 59736948. Retrieved 19 January 2023.
^Miller, Cheryl (2008). "Blogging Infertility". The New Atlantis (19). Center for the Study of Technology and Society: 79–90. ISSN 1543-1215. JSTOR 43152391. Retrieved 19 January 2023 – via JSTOR.
^Curtis, Anna (2010). "Giving 'Til It Hurts: Egg Donation and the Costs of Altruism". Feminist Formations. 22 (2). Johns Hopkins University Press: 80–100. ISSN 2151-7363. JSTOR 40835372. Retrieved 19 January 2023 – via JSTOR.
^Perry, Shayna M. (2019). A Content Analysis of Online Social Support Behaviors Given among Individuals Coping with Ectopic Pregnancy (Thesis). California Lutheran University. ProQuest 2281865516 – via ProQuest.
^Furkin, Jennifer D. (2018). Mom to Mom: Online Breastfeeding Advice (Thesis). University of Kentucky Libraries. doi:10.13023/etd.2018.066.
^Brady, Ellen; Guerin, Suzanne (2010). ""Not the Romantic, All Happy, Coochy Coo Experience": A Qualitative Analysis of Interactions on an Irish Parenting Web Site". Family Relations. 59 (1). National Council on Family Relations: 14–27. doi:10.1111/j.1741-3729.2009.00582.x. ISSN 0197-6664. JSTOR 40663908. Retrieved 19 January 2023 – via JSTOR.
^Pedersen, Sarah; Burnett, Simon (May 2022). "Saying the unsayable: The online expression of mothers' anger during a pandemic". Feminism & Psychology. 32 (2): 246–264. doi:10.1177/09593535221074131. ISSN 0959-3535. S2CID 246397449 – via SAGE Journals.
^Piela, Anna (October 2011). "Piety as a concept underpinning Muslim women's online discussions of marriage and professional career". Contemporary Islam. 5 (3): 249–265. doi:10.1007/s11562-011-0162-y. ISSN 1872-0218. S2CID 143631744. Retrieved 16 January 2023.
^Pavia, Catherine M. (2009). Literacy and Religious Agency: An Ethnographic Study of an Online LDS Women's Group (Thesis). University of Massachusetts. ProQuest 304927117 – via ProQuest.
^avishai, orit; burke, kelsy (2016). "God's Case for Sex". Contexts. 15 (4). SAGE Publications: 30–35. doi:10.1177/1536504216684819. ISSN 1536-5042. JSTOR 26370440. S2CID 151951757. Retrieved 19 January 2023 – via JSTOR.
Drentea, Patricia; Moren-Cross, Jennifer L. (28 November 2005). "Social capital and social support on the web: the case of an internet mother site". Sociology of Health & Illness. 27 (7): 920–943. doi:10.1111/j.1467-9566.2005.00464.x. PMID 16313523.
Hof, Karina (August 2006). "Something you can actually pick up: Scrapbooking as a form and forum of cultural citizenship" (PDF). European Journal of Cultural Studies. 9 (3): 363–384. doi:10.1177/1367549406066078. S2CID 143519518. Retrieved 28 June 2012.[permanent dead link]
Owens, Kim Hensley (2007). Rhetorical labor: writing, childbirth, and the Internet (Ph.D. thesis). University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.
Further readingedit
McGowan, Michelle (2008), "Producing Users of Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis: Dominant and Marginalized Discourses in the US Context", in A. Bammé, G. Getzinger & B. Wieser (ed.), Yearbook 2007 of the Institute for Advanced Studies on Science, Technology and Society, Profil Mchn., pp. 95–110, ISBN978-3-89019-631-2, retrieved 28 June 2012[permanent dead link]
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Dear Husband redirects here For the Joyce Carol Oates work see Dear Husband short story collection In Internet slang DH is an abbreviation for dear husband it is commonly used by women on certain forums to refer to their husbands Similarly DD means dear daughter and DS means dear son The Oxford Dictionary of English dates the origin of DH to the 1990s 1 It was a part of Internet culture as far back as America Online 2 3 and remains part of a common lingua franca across a broad array of parenting boards 4 Online communities often develop what lexicographers call a language for special purposes LSP A study of the language for special purposes LSP used on breast cancer and infertility forums found that the corpus of both communities was defined by brevity humor and intra group unity in part expressed by replacing terms that would be used in conventional professional communication settings such as male partner or luteal phase with vocabulary particular to the layperson to layperson community such as DH and 2WW two week wait 5 Hof 2006 writes that DH is not merely shorthand meant to save time but a cheeky reference 6 Drentea amp Moren Cross 2005 write that using DH and DD help stressed out women maintain their good mother social role by softening complaints about their families The usage of dear can also be sarcastic 7 Owens 2007 writes that DH suggests a certain distancing 8 A statistical analysis of approximately 50 million posts on a parenting forum found that Almost five percent of posts are about dh or dear husband but these posts tend to express more negative emotion than other posts The researcher theorized that the relative anonymity of the forum and the ability to dissociate and compartmentalize online contribute to this effect asserting This culture of disinhibition and conventional signaling creates a safe space online for moms to explore their own roles and identity and a variety of other topics The study also found that there were only 48 references to dear husband across all of YBM posts compared to over 270 000 references to dh suggesting that the use of DH plays a role in in group signaling and community cohesion 4 DH and related terms are prevalent in a number of Internet subcultures that center female sexuality such as infertility trying to conceive support groups 9 egg donation forums 10 ectopic pregnancy communities 11 breastfeeding support communities 12 and on parenting forums where division of labor between parents of different genders has become an issue especially after the arrival of a newborn 13 or in times of broader crisis such as during a global pandemic 14 DH appears in conversations about family sexuality and relationships within Muslim 15 LDS 16 and Jewish 17 online communities On one breast cancer forum where the majority of users are women aged 40 to 60 a statistical analysis of posts shows that typing out husband is associated with short time members while my DD rather than daughter is associated with long time members 18 References edit Oxford dictionary of English Angus Stevenson 3rd ed New York NY Oxford University Press 2010 ISBN 978 0 19 172766 5 OCLC 700212397 a href Template Cite book html title Template Cite book cite book a CS1 maint others link Hof 2006 p 369 Balmain Melissa 15 November 1995 Cybermom Reaches Out while Online Orange County Register ProQuest 272845385 a b Schoenebeck Sarita Yardi 2013 The Secret Life of Online Moms Anonymity and Disinhibition on YouBeMom com Proceedings of the Seventh International AAAI Conference on Weblogs and Social Media Report Association for the Advancement of Artificial Intelligence Retrieved 19 January 2023 Bowker Lynne Herrera Carolina 24 October 2005 A new Internet based Communicative Setting Exploring its Impact on Language for Special Purposes Lexicographica 20 2004 33 55 doi 10 1515 9783484604674 33 ISSN 1865 9403 S2CID 59736948 Retrieved 19 January 2023 Hof 2006 p 368 Drentea amp Moren Cross 2005 p 929 Owens 2007 p 183 Miller Cheryl 2008 Blogging Infertility The New Atlantis 19 Center for the Study of Technology and Society 79 90 ISSN 1543 1215 JSTOR 43152391 Retrieved 19 January 2023 via JSTOR Curtis Anna 2010 Giving Til It Hurts Egg Donation and the Costs of Altruism Feminist Formations 22 2 Johns Hopkins University Press 80 100 ISSN 2151 7363 JSTOR 40835372 Retrieved 19 January 2023 via JSTOR Perry Shayna M 2019 A Content Analysis of Online Social Support Behaviors Given among Individuals Coping with Ectopic Pregnancy Thesis California Lutheran University ProQuest 2281865516 via ProQuest Furkin Jennifer D 2018 Mom to Mom Online Breastfeeding Advice Thesis University of Kentucky Libraries doi 10 13023 etd 2018 066 Brady Ellen Guerin Suzanne 2010 Not the Romantic All Happy Coochy Coo Experience A Qualitative Analysis of Interactions on an Irish Parenting Web Site Family Relations 59 1 National Council on Family Relations 14 27 doi 10 1111 j 1741 3729 2009 00582 x ISSN 0197 6664 JSTOR 40663908 Retrieved 19 January 2023 via JSTOR Pedersen Sarah Burnett Simon May 2022 Saying the unsayable The online expression of mothers anger during a pandemic Feminism amp Psychology 32 2 246 264 doi 10 1177 09593535221074131 ISSN 0959 3535 S2CID 246397449 via SAGE Journals Piela Anna October 2011 Piety as a concept underpinning Muslim women s online discussions of marriage and professional career Contemporary Islam 5 3 249 265 doi 10 1007 s11562 011 0162 y ISSN 1872 0218 S2CID 143631744 Retrieved 16 January 2023 Pavia Catherine M 2009 Literacy and Religious Agency An Ethnographic Study of an Online LDS Women s Group Thesis University of Massachusetts ProQuest 304927117 via ProQuest avishai orit burke kelsy 2016 God s Case for Sex Contexts 15 4 SAGE Publications 30 35 doi 10 1177 1536504216684819 ISSN 1536 5042 JSTOR 26370440 S2CID 151951757 Retrieved 19 January 2023 via JSTOR Nguyen amp Rose 2011 pp 78 83 Sources editDrentea Patricia Moren Cross Jennifer L 28 November 2005 Social capital and social support on the web the case of an internet mother site Sociology of Health amp Illness 27 7 920 943 doi 10 1111 j 1467 9566 2005 00464 x PMID 16313523 Hof Karina August 2006 Something you can actually pick up Scrapbooking as a form and forum of cultural citizenship PDF European Journal of Cultural Studies 9 3 363 384 doi 10 1177 1367549406066078 S2CID 143519518 Retrieved 28 June 2012 permanent dead link Nguyen Dong Rose Carolyn P 23 June 2011 Language use as a reflection of socialization in online communities PDF Proceedings of the Workshop on Language in Social Media LSM 2011 Association for Computational Linguistics pp 76 85 ISBN 978 1 932432 96 1 Retrieved 28 June 2012 Owens Kim Hensley 2007 Rhetorical labor writing childbirth and the Internet Ph D thesis University of Illinois at Urbana Champaign Further reading editMcGowan Michelle 2008 Producing Users of Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis Dominant and Marginalized Discourses in the US Context in A Bamme G Getzinger amp B Wieser ed Yearbook 2007 of the Institute for Advanced Studies on Science Technology and Society Profil Mchn pp 95 110 ISBN 978 3 89019 631 2 retrieved 28 June 2012 permanent dead link Retrieved from https en wikipedia org w index php title Dear husband amp oldid 1189332666, wikipedia, wiki, book, books, library,
