An affair is a sexual relationship, romantic friendship, or passionate attachment in which at least one of its participants has a formal or informal commitment to a third person who may neither agree to such relationship nor even be aware of it.
A romantic affair, also called an affair of the heart, may refer to a sexual liaison or more emotional relationship between two people who may have sex without expecting a more formal romantic relationship, an affair is by its nature romantic.[1]
The term affair may also describe part of an agreement within an open marriage or open relationship, such as swinging, dating, or polyamory, in which some forms of sex with one's non-primary partner(s) are permitted and other forms are not. Participants in open relationships, including unmarried couples and polyamorous families, may consider sanctioned affairs the norm, but when a non-sanctioned affair occurs, it is described as infidelity and maybe experienced as adultery, or a betrayal both of trust and integrity, even though to most people it would not be considered illicit.
When romantic affairs lack both overt and covert sexual behavior, yet exhibit intense or enduring emotional intimacy, it may also be referred to as an emotional affair, platonic love, or a romantic friendship.
An affair can continue in one form or another for years, even as one of the partners in that affair passes through marriage, divorce, and remarriage. This could be considered the primary relationship, with the marriage secondary to it. Several people claim the reason for an extramarital affair is their unsuccessful marriage where both spouses fail to please each other. This may be serial polygamy or other forms of nonmonogamy.[3]
The ability to pursue serial and clandestine extramarital affairs while safeguarding other secrets and conflict of interest inherent in the practice, requires skill in deception and duplicitous negotiation. Even to hide one affair requires a degree of skill or malicious gaslighting. All these behaviors are more usually called lying.[4]
Deception can be defined as the "covert manipulation of perception to alter thoughts, feelings, or beliefs". The presence of deception may indicate the degree to which the deceiver has breached fundamental conditions of fidelity, reciprocal vulnerability, and transparency. Sometimes these are explicit or assumed pre-conditions of a committed intimate relationship.[citation needed]
Individuals having affairs with married men or women can be prosecuted for adultery in some jurisdictions and can be sued by the jilted spouses in others, or named as 'co-respondents' in divorce proceedings. As of 2009, eight U.S. states permitted such alienation of affections lawsuits.[5] Affairs with the consent of their significant others may not be considered infidelity or adultery.[citation needed]
Online affair
The appearance of computer-mediated communication introduces a new type of communication and consequently a new type of "affair". There are various kinds of computer-mediated communication that differ in some significant aspects: one-to-one or group communication formats, interrelating with anonymous or identified people and communicating in synchronous or asynchronous formats.[6] Online affairs combine features of close and remote relationships.
Ben Ze'ef argues that an online affair is a unique kind of affair—termed "detached attachment", or just "detachment"—that includes opposing features whose presence in a face-to-face affair would be paradoxical. Like direct, face-to-face affairs, online affairs can be spontaneous and casual and show intensive personal involvement. However, online affairs can also be more of a planned discourse than spontaneous talk; like written letters, online messages can be stored and thus have a permanent presence, which is absent from face-to-face affairs.[7]
People participating in online affairs may be strangers to each other in the sense that they have never actually met each other. However, they are also close to each other since they share intimate information. In online affairs, people try to enjoy the benefits of both close and remote affairs, while avoiding their flaws. People enjoy the highly valued products of close affairs while paying the low cost of remote affairs. As one woman wrote: 'He constantly told me that he can not provide me with what I would want and I would always respond with: "I'm not asking anything from you, but simply enjoy your company"'.[8]
^"What's An Emotional Affair: How To Recognize One". askdougandchris.com. Retrieved 2017-08-12.
^"Definition of EXTRAMARITAL". www.merriam-webster.com. Retrieved 2016-10-13.
^Strean, Herbert S. (1980). The Extramarital Affair. Free Press. ISBN9780765702470. Retrieved 18 November 2015.
^Mendelsohn, Robert (August 2014). ""Collusive Infidelity," Projective Identification, and Clinical Technique". The Psychoanalytic Review. 101 (4): 517–546. doi:10.1521/prev.2014.101.4.517. ISSN 0033-2836. PMID 25102184.
^Appel, Jacob M. (2009-10-07). "Hate the Husband? Sue the Mistress!". Huffingtonpost.com. Retrieved 2010-03-01.
^Ze'ev (2004). "Flirting On and Offline" (PDF). International Journal of Research in to New Media Technologies. 10 (24).
^Lea & Spears (1995). "Love at first Byte". Understudied Relationships: 211.
^Cyberlove101.com, story 39. "An Enchanting Belgian gentleman". {{cite journal}}: Cite journal requires |journal= (help)
Further reading
Schmitt, D. P., et al. (2004). Patterns and universals of mate poaching across 53 nations: The effects of sex, culture, and personality on romantically attracting another person's partner. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 86, 560–584.
External links
Look up affair in Wiktionary, the free dictionary.
United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, "Infidelity"
January 08, 2023
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For other uses see Affair disambiguation This article needs additional citations for verification Please help improve this article by adding citations to reliable sources Unsourced material may be challenged and removed Find sources Affair news newspapers books scholar JSTOR April 2022 Learn how and when to remove this template message An affair is a sexual relationship romantic friendship or passionate attachment in which at least one of its participants has a formal or informal commitment to a third person who may neither agree to such relationship nor even be aware of it Contents 1 Romantic affair 2 Extramarital affair 3 Online affair 4 Famous affairs 5 See also 6 References 7 Further reading 8 External linksRomantic affair Edit The Stolen Kiss by Jean Honore Fragonard A romantic affair also called an affair of the heart may refer to a sexual liaison or more emotional relationship between two people who may have sex without expecting a more formal romantic relationship an affair is by its nature romantic 1 The term affair may also describe part of an agreement within an open marriage or open relationship such as swinging dating or polyamory in which some forms of sex with one s non primary partner s are permitted and other forms are not Participants in open relationships including unmarried couples and polyamorous families may consider sanctioned affairs the norm but when a non sanctioned affair occurs it is described as infidelity and maybe experienced as adultery or a betrayal both of trust and integrity even though to most people it would not be considered illicit When romantic affairs lack both overt and covert sexual behavior yet exhibit intense or enduring emotional intimacy it may also be referred to as an emotional affair platonic love or a romantic friendship Extramarital affair EditMain articles Infidelity Legitimacy family law Adultery and Extramarital sex Extramarital affairs are relationships outside of marriage where an illicit romantic or sexual relationship or a romantic friendship or passionate attachment occurs 2 An affair can continue in one form or another for years even as one of the partners in that affair passes through marriage divorce and remarriage This could be considered the primary relationship with the marriage secondary to it Several people claim the reason for an extramarital affair is their unsuccessful marriage where both spouses fail to please each other This may be serial polygamy or other forms of nonmonogamy 3 The ability to pursue serial and clandestine extramarital affairs while safeguarding other secrets and conflict of interest inherent in the practice requires skill in deception and duplicitous negotiation Even to hide one affair requires a degree of skill or malicious gaslighting All these behaviors are more usually called lying 4 Deception can be defined as the covert manipulation of perception to alter thoughts feelings or beliefs The presence of deception may indicate the degree to which the deceiver has breached fundamental conditions of fidelity reciprocal vulnerability and transparency Sometimes these are explicit or assumed pre conditions of a committed intimate relationship citation needed Individuals having affairs with married men or women can be prosecuted for adultery in some jurisdictions and can be sued by the jilted spouses in others or named as co respondents in divorce proceedings As of 2009 eight U S states permitted such alienation of affections lawsuits 5 Affairs with the consent of their significant others may not be considered infidelity or adultery citation needed Online affair EditThe appearance of computer mediated communication introduces a new type of communication and consequently a new type of affair There are various kinds of computer mediated communication that differ in some significant aspects one to one or group communication formats interrelating with anonymous or identified people and communicating in synchronous or asynchronous formats 6 Online affairs combine features of close and remote relationships Ben Ze ef argues that an online affair is a unique kind of affair termed detached attachment or just detachment that includes opposing features whose presence in a face to face affair would be paradoxical Like direct face to face affairs online affairs can be spontaneous and casual and show intensive personal involvement However online affairs can also be more of a planned discourse than spontaneous talk like written letters online messages can be stored and thus have a permanent presence which is absent from face to face affairs 7 People participating in online affairs may be strangers to each other in the sense that they have never actually met each other However they are also close to each other since they share intimate information In online affairs people try to enjoy the benefits of both close and remote affairs while avoiding their flaws People enjoy the highly valued products of close affairs while paying the low cost of remote affairs As one woman wrote He constantly told me that he can not provide me with what I would want and I would always respond with I m not asking anything from you but simply enjoy your company 8 Famous affairs EditSee also Political scandal and Sex scandal Affair of the Diamond Necklace Hamilton Reynolds affair Eulenburg affair Haijby scandal Iris Robinson scandal Clinton Lewinsky scandal The Makropulos Affair play The Makropulos Affair opera Munsinger affair Profumo affair Spiegel affair Eliot Spitzer prostitution scandal John Edwards extramarital affair Mark Sanford extramarital affairSee also EditAshley Madison Courtly love Crime of passion Family therapy On again off again relationship Polysexuality Scandal Love triangle AdulteryReferences Edit What s An Emotional Affair How To Recognize One askdougandchris com Retrieved 2017 08 12 Definition of EXTRAMARITAL www merriam webster com Retrieved 2016 10 13 Strean Herbert S 1980 The Extramarital Affair Free Press ISBN 9780765702470 Retrieved 18 November 2015 Mendelsohn Robert August 2014 Collusive Infidelity Projective Identification and Clinical Technique The Psychoanalytic Review 101 4 517 546 doi 10 1521 prev 2014 101 4 517 ISSN 0033 2836 PMID 25102184 Appel Jacob M 2009 10 07 Hate the Husband Sue the Mistress Huffingtonpost com Retrieved 2010 03 01 Ze ev 2004 Flirting On and Offline PDF International Journal of Research in to New Media Technologies 10 24 Lea amp Spears 1995 Love at first Byte Understudied Relationships 211 Cyberlove101 com story 39 An Enchanting Belgian gentleman a href Template Cite journal html title Template Cite journal cite journal a Cite journal requires journal help Further reading EditSchmitt D P et al 2004 Patterns and universals of mate poaching across 53 nations The effects of sex culture and personality on romantically attracting another person s partner Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 86 560 584 External links Edit Look up affair in Wiktionary the free 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